One of the biggest things I have struggled with is not being with Daddy. I have noticed every once in awhile I end up with a drop feeling. It reminds me a lot like Sub Drop but after doing some research it is an oxytocin drop.
So you find it a lot in long distance relationships. Even though we are not technically long distance but with a lot of our personal situations and there is an hour drive right now we can’t be like a regular relationship. So in long distance relationships when they get together normally they get together for a period of time then go back home. When they are together they build up the oxytocin and when they go back home they start to loose it. The best way I found an article I was reading explained it like a gas tank. When you are together you fill it up and then when you separate you start using it and burning through it. Eventually you end up on empty and this is where you get the drop feeling.
I have noticed I don’t have to many problems with it, but, naturally I do sometimes. I have found that if I get extra days then what we already have set off to the side as date nights or if we end up snuggling a lot sometimes it can cause me to go into a drop. Like last night was an extra night for us which meant more snuggling, but, also there was a point that Daddy had a breakdown and I was there to be able to hold him and make him feel better. Most of today I was distracted cause I was at work, but, when I got off work Daddy said he rolled his ankle and I felt worried, panicked, and I wanted to be there to help. Due to our personal situations I can’t be there for him, I can’t help, there is nothing I can do for him and at that point I felt myself start to drop even more. Once I got back to my house I really dropped, there was no distractions just an empty house of nothing. There is an empty bed, empty desk, empty couch, and a boring tv full of movies that remind me of watching movies with Daddy.
As I sat on my bed eating my food I put on a movie Daddy told me to watch, but, I couldn’t get into it. I had nobody to watch it with and it reminded me of him. After eating like a Good Girl, I laid down. There are a few ways I have came across to try to help me during a drop. I have five different ways and have used all but one tonight as it wasn’t something we were able to do.
The first way is to snuggle up to my Dino stuffy that I got with Daddy, his name is Lil Daddy. The second way is to listen to his playlist. I often listen to his play list when I miss him or if I am getting stressed or overwhelmed cause it reminds me of him and helps me relax, however, when I drop I partner it with closing my eyes and imagining that last times we have touched. I try to remember all of it. So like when he is sitting at the desk and I am standing behind him rubbing his back. I try to remember how his back feels, his hair running through his hair, and running my fingers through his beard. I try to imagine I am back in the moment. I use any moment that comes to mind, and I try to just remember everything in that moment. The fourth way I use is using my arms to simulate when we are cuddling and he pulls me tight. I have found if I tuck my bottom arm up on my shoulder and neck and wrap my top arm as tight as I possibly can it is exactly to same feeling I get when he grabs me and pulls me tight into his body. The last and fifth way is video chatting. I can see his face, his smile, I can hear his voice, and it makes me feel so much better. The bad thing about that is it isn’t always something we can do so I have tried to come up with self soothing techniques.
Love,
💋Kitten🐈⬛
