A Dom/Sub relationship is a very special relationship. To me there is more to a D/s Relationship then to a normal Vanilla relationship. In all relationships there is communication, trust, respect, and love. However, in a D/s relationship those qualities are held to a higher standard then a vanilla relationship. In an relationship if any one of these is left out of the relationship it will crumble and someone will get hurt. In a D/s Relationship not having one of these can be extremely dangerous depending on the type of play. I want to go over what the D/s relationship means to me.
My D/s Relationship means the world to me. When Daddy and I came across each other it was strictly a D/s relationship and it has developed into more as feelings have came into play. For me the big keys in the relationship are Consent, Communication, Trust, Respect and Love. There are plenty more and the list could go on forever, but let me explain these. Consent comes from my past. I have had a lot of different types of abuse in my past. My consent meant nothing to those people all those years. I was robbed of my voice, so for me I need someone who is gonna respect that I cant go further or I need to stop or I want the scene/action to stop. Communication is also a big thing for me because of my past if I am triggered at any point and I need everything to stop or the action to stop I need to be able to communicate that with someone that listens. Also communication is a big thing in general. There have been some things that I have not felt comfortable with because our relationship is so new and when I voiced my concerns Daddy respected them. I also have a lot to work out on a personal level and with that I have flash backs or my fight or flight kick in from my past. My writings have helped me try to move past that and get some footing. I sometimes have depressing days and I am glad I can communicate with Daddy about those issues, sometimes it is like pulling teeth but he always gets it out of me and we can talk about it. Trust for me is like any other relationship. At first it was really hard for me because of my past, but has become easier over time. Daddy has made trusting easier. He always reassures me and puts up with my consent need for reminding. LOL. Trust also builds up this support that is so deep. Sometimes it is the Dom that needs the care and the Sub is the caregiver, and other times it is the Sub that needs care and the Dom is there to give care. Also while in a scene there has to be a lot of trust. I have to have trust built with you if you are going to choke me till I pass out. I need to be able to literally place my life in your hands if we are doing any type of breath play. That kind of trust is not just something everyone can have that trust is earned! If we are doing impact play and I use my safe word everything better stop. I am trusting you to do that. Again that trust is earned and not freely given. Respect is one that a lot of people forget about. I have heard stories about how a Dom was on a power trip and didn’t respect his Sub and the Sub got hurt physically or emotionally. The biggest thing you have to remember is that without us you are nothing, but also without you we are nothing. You have to respect us to get our submission. Just like we have to respect you as our Dom. Even with me being a brat I still have mad respect for my Dom I just kind of push buttons along the way for fun. But also on the flipside He has respect for me. Now not all D/s relationships have love, but with being based off of me I need it. I need an emotional connection for me to get where I need to be in bed and climax. Honestly I feel the connection pulls everything together for me. Comparing when I was first with Daddy to now when he goes primal I feel a more deep connection. When we do impact play I push myself further then I did at the beginning. Being able to climax more then once has also been a big change from when we first got together to now also. I feel like ever since my connection and feelings grew for Daddy things have became more intense. My connection to Daddy has also made it a lot easier to do things with him that I have never let anyone else do.
So overall those are the most important things for me. Like I said there are plenty of other things that make a D/s Relationship more then a vanilla relationship, but that list is never ending.
Until next time.
Love,
💋Kitten🐈⬛
